Birth date: May 22, 1929 Death date: Oct 21, 2025
Marie Antoinette Graham, 96, from Jackson, MI, passed away on Tuesday, October 21, 2025, at the Henry Ford Hospice Home. Marie will be buried at Fort Custer National Cemetery next to her husband, where a private family service wil Read Obituary
In Memory of Marie Graham
A Son-in-Law's Tribute to a Cherished Grandmother
By James M. Thomas – Daniels Father
From the Heart: Remembering Marie Graham
There are people whose presence in your life leaves an indelible mark—Marie Graham was one of those souls for me. For sixteen years, she was not only my mother-in-law, but truly family. She filled our days with kindness, steady strength, and an unfailing warmth that made our house a home. Her loss has left a silence that echoes in the spaces she once so lovingly occupied.
Her Love and Devotion
Marie’s devotion to Daniel, her grandson, was nothing short of remarkable. When Daniel faced the darkest days of his young life—recovering from brain cancer surgery and the challenges of chemotherapy—Marie was his unwavering guardian. She made sure he got to school, waited at the bus stop to welcome him home, and tended to his every need with gentle hands and a loving heart. She didn’t simply help with homework; she lifted his spirits, offering comfort no one else could. I saw in her a love that never faltered, even when the world felt uncertain.
Our Anchor in Difficult Times
While Tena and I worked to provide for the family, Marie was our anchor. She was the steady presence we all leaned on—the one who held everything together so we could face the day. I’ll never forget the peace of knowing she was there for Daniel, for us, and for all the little moments that make a life. She brought a sense of security that made our family strong, and her wisdom and compassion shaped the person Daniel is becoming.
Love Beyond Loss
Though relationships can change and life sometimes leads us down separate paths—my marriage with Tena ended, but my admiration and gratitude for Marie remained unwavering. The bonds we shared didn’t break with circumstance, and the grief I feel at her passing is profound. She was a light in our lives, and that light will never be extinguished by distance or time.
A Legacy of Love
Marie Graham was more than a grandmother—she was my friend, my supporter, and in many ways, a guiding star. The lessons she taught, the love she gave, and the memories we created together will remain with me always. Even as I mourn her loss, I am deeply thankful for every year, every day, and every moment we shared. I will miss her—and yet, I carry her spirit and kindness forward in all that I do.
You will be missed, James Thomas
Letter to My Mother
Honoring Your Memory Amid Family Difficulties
Dear Mom,
It is with a heavy heart and profound sadness that I write to share my decision not to attend your funeral. This choice comes not from a lack of love or respect, but rather from the difficult reality that family gatherings have become overshadowed by negativity and discord. The atmosphere within the family, especially during moments meant for reflection and unity, has made it increasingly hard to find peace and comfort.
Daniel and I have struggled with this, as we deeply wish to grieve and honor your memory in a way that truly reflects the love you gave us. Unfortunately, the tensions and unresolved conflicts among relatives would only add pain to a day already heavy with sorrow. We do not believe that being present in such an environment would allow us the space and sincerity to mourn you as you deserve.
Instead, we have chosen to remember you privately, embracing the memories of your kindness, wisdom, and warmth. On the day of your funeral, our thoughts and prayers will be with you, and our hearts will be dedicated to honoring your life in a setting free from negativity.
Your passing leaves an ache that cannot be filled, and we grieve your absence deeply. Please know that our decision comes from a place of reflection, love, and a desire to hold your spirit close, away from the burdens of family strife.
With enduring love and sympathy,
Your daughters Jan Marie Soles, Tena Marie Noble, & Grandson Daniel James Thomas
In Loving Memory of Marie Graham
A Tribute to a Remarkable Mother and Her Frugal, Flavorful Kitchen
by her daughter Tena Noble
Remembering Marie Graham
Growing up with six kids, my mom, Marie Graham, embodied the true spirit of frugality and resourcefulness. Her kitchen was always filled with warmth, creativity, and the tantalizing aromas of homemade treats. Though she had many responsibilities, she made sure that each meal was not only nourishing, but also a celebration of flavor and tradition.
Homemade Delights
Marie never shied away from making things from scratch, especially when it came to her famous boiled frosting. Light, fluffy, and perfectly sweet, her frosting was a staple at birthdays and family gatherings—a testament to her commitment to doing things the right way, even when it took a little extra effort.
The Watkins 5 Flavor Cake
For years, Mom sold Watkins products, bringing a world of flavor right into our home. Her signature creation, Watkins 5 Flavor Cake, was a crowd-pleaser, expertly blending vanilla, lemon, almond, butter, and coconut extracts into a masterpiece that was uniquely hers. The cake wasn’t just delicious—it was a symbol of her ingenuity and the joy she poured into her baking.
Family Favorites
• Rhubarb Jello Sauce: Tart rhubarb, sweet Jello, and a touch of Mom’s magic made this sauce irresistible over desserts.
• Pistachio Pudding Dessert: Creamy, nutty, and always in high demand at potlucks and family dinners.
• Waldorf Salad: Crisp apples, celery, walnuts, and grapes tossed in a light dressing—refreshing and comforting.
• The Best Banana Bread: Moist and flavorful, it was the perfect way to use up overripe bananas and fill the house with the smell of baking.
Breads Worth Remembering
Marie’s homemade white bread had a golden crust and soft crumb, perfect for sandwiches or just a pat of butter. Her potato bread was equally beloved, hearty and satisfying for hungry kids after school. She understood that good bread could bring everyone together at the table.
A Legacy of Love
More than her recipes, what we remember most is the love and care Marie Graham put into every dish. She turned simple ingredients into family traditions and taught us the value of resourcefulness, togetherness, and savoring the sweet moments in life. Her legacy lives on each time we recreate her favorite recipes or gather as a family around the table she made so special.
Memories of Grandma Marie
A Reflection on Creativity and Family Traditions
by Daniel Thomas
Childhood Coloring Sessions with Grandma
Some of my fondest childhood memories center around quiet afternoons spent with my Grandma Marie. She had a gentle way of inviting me to sit down beside her, suggesting, “Let’s sit down and color and make some pictures for your mom and dad when they come home.” Those simple words always filled me with excitement and comfort, knowing I was about to embark on a creative adventure with someone who truly cared.
Grandma Marie didn’t just hand me a coloring book and crayons—she got involved herself. She would draw with us, her hands steady and her eyes bright with encouragement. It wasn’t so much about creating a masterpiece, but rather about spending time together, sharing laughter and stories as we brought characters and scenes to life on blank pages.
Passing Down Artistic Inspiration
What’s funny is that recently, seemingly out of the blue, I started drawing myself. At first, it was just a way to relax and let my mind wander, but over time I discovered that I’ve actually become pretty good at it. There’s a sense of connection with my past each time I pick up a pencil or pen, as if Grandma Marie is still beside me, encouraging me to express myself and create something new.
I realize now that those afternoons weren’t just about coloring for my parents. They were about sparking a lifelong appreciation for art and creativity. Grandma Marie’s warmth and enthusiasm planted a seed that has grown with me, blossoming into a genuine passion for drawing and self-expression.
The Gift of Creative Tradition
Looking back, I am grateful for the simple yet meaningful moments I shared with Grandma Marie. Her invitation to sit down and color wasn’t just an activity—it was a gift, one that continues to inspire me today. Through her, I learned that art isn’t just about technique or talent. It’s about connecting with others, expressing yourself, and finding joy in the creative process.
As I continue to develop my own skills as an artist, I carry Grandma Marie’s legacy with me. Every drawing is a tribute to those cherished afternoons, a reminder of the love, patience, and inspiration she shared so freely. I hope that someday, I’ll be able to pass on this creative tradition to others, just as she did for me.
Memories of My Grandma: Her Love for Christmas Songs
Reflecting on Joyful Moments and Timeless Melodies
by Daniel Thomas
Grandma’s Festive Spirit
When I think back on my childhood, some of my fondest memories are of my grandma and her unwavering love for Christmas. She cherished everything about the season—the twinkling lights, the warmth of family gatherings, and especially the music. Christmas songs were her soundtrack to life, and she carried their melodies in her heart all year long.
Conducting Joy with Her Fingers
My grandma had a delightful habit whenever a Christmas carol played or when she sang one herself. She would use her fingers as if she were an orchestra conductor, waving them in the air to keep the rhythm and bring the song to life. It was mesmerizing to watch her—her hands gracefully moving back and forth, each motion filled with joy and energy. Sometimes, I'd try to mimic her, but it was never quite the same as her expert touch.
Winter Wonderland: Her Favorite Song
Of all the Christmas songs, “Winter Wonderland” was her absolute favorite. She would sing it at every opportunity, her eyes sparkling with happiness. The lyrics seemed to flow effortlessly from her lips, and, over time, her enthusiasm drew me in. After hearing her sing the song so many times, I gradually learned the words myself. Eventually, I joined her, and together we’d harmonize, our voices blending with laughter and love.
Carols All Year Round
What made my grandma truly special was that she didn’t restrict her singing to just the holiday season. Christmas carols were a constant presence throughout the year. Whether it was the warmth of July or the crispness of October, she would burst into “Jingle Bells” or “Silent Night,” filling the house with music and cheer. She believed that the spirit of Christmas—its joy, hope, and togetherness—should be celebrated always, not just in December.
The Gift of Song
Looking back, I realize how much my grandma’s love for Christmas songs shaped my own appreciation for music and memories. Her carols were more than just melodies; they were expressions of love and happiness, reminders that the little things—singing together, laughing, and simply enjoying each other’s company—are what make life beautiful. I carry her songs with me now, sometimes singing “Winter Wonderland” when I need a little comfort, and remembering the gentle rhythm of her conducting fingers.
Wise Words and Memories of Grandma Marie
A Collection of Grandma Marie's Classic Sayings
by Daniel Thomas
Introduction
Grandmas have a special way of leaving an imprint on our hearts. Their wisdom, humor, and love echo through the generations. This document captures some of the memorable things my Grandma Marie used to say—words that shaped my childhood and bring a smile whenever I think of her.
Classic Sayings That Shaped My Childhood
• "Did you wash your hands?" (A reminder of the importance of cleanliness and personal hygiene. Grandma was always making sure we stayed healthy!)
• "You think you are big, you are going to get it one day." (A gentle warning that growing up comes with its own challenges. She knew how to keep us humble.)
• "When is the last time you went number 2?" (Grandma cared about our well-being, even in the most practical ways!)
• "I put this cup of vinegar out to keep the bugs away." (Her old-fashioned remedy for household pests. She always had a trick up her sleeve.)
• "Don’t let it bother you." (Her advice for dealing with life’s little annoyances. She believed in letting go of negativity.)
• "Laugh, life's too short to be mad." (Grandma’s encouragement to find joy even in difficult times. Her laughter was contagious.)
• "Is it too hot? Put an ice cube in it to cool it down." (Her simple solution for overheated drinks—and overheated tempers!)
• "Oh Johnny, Oh Johnny!" (Her affectionate exclamation to her grandson John, always spoken with love and amusement.)
• "Bless your little heart." (A sweet expression of love and tenderness, often said when she was comforting us or proud of us.)
• "You better be good or I am going to tell your dad when he gets home and you will get a spanking." (Her way of keeping us in line—Grandma’s warnings always came with a loving smile.)
• "Let's all play a game and be quiet. Whoever is the quietest the longest wins." (Her clever way to get some peace and quiet, turning it into a fun challenge for the grandkids!)
Reflections
These sayings are more than just words—they are snapshots of Grandma Marie’s personality, her love, and her wisdom. Whether she was teaching us to stay healthy, encouraging us to laugh, or keeping us out of trouble, her voice is still with me. I cherish these memories and the lessons hidden within her simple, everyday advice.
Conclusion
Remembering Grandma Marie through her sayings is a way to keep her spirit alive. Her words continue to guide, comfort, and amuse, proving that a grandmother’s love truly never fades. I hope these recollections inspire you to celebrate the wisdom and warmth of your own family’s elders.
A Funny Memory of My Mom, Marie Graham
Our Time Together at Spring Arbor Industries
by Jan Marie Soles
Unexpected Excellence
One of my favorite and funniest memories of my mom, Marie Graham, happened when we worked together at Spring Arbor Industries. During her interview, the owner her why he should hire her. Without missing a beat, Mom simply replied, “Because I need a job.” Her blunt honesty made us both chuckle, but it must have struck a chord because, despite his hesitation over her age and lack of recent work experience, he decided to hire her.
Outperforming Expectations
At first, the owner wasn’t sure what to expect. Mom was much older than most of the other workers and hadn’t had a job in some time. But she quickly proved herself to be the best worker he ever hired. Her speed and accuracy on the machines were unmatched.
Whenever the factory fell behind after the first shift, the owner would put Mom on the busiest machines. She would crank out products so fast that even the younger women couldn’t keep up with her. The owner was so impressed, he would remind the younger workers of Mom’s age, pointing out how she could put them all to shame with her production numbers.
A Legacy of Hard Work and Humor
That experience was not only a testament to Mom’s incredible work ethic but also her sense of humor and straightforward attitude. It’s a memory that still makes me smile, reminding me how she defied expectations and added some laughter to our days at Spring Arbor Industries.
